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Creating Positive Affirmations To Shape The Life You Desire

Positive affirmations have been used for many years as a great tool to rewire our subconscious mind from a state of negative thinking to positive. Developing a positive mindset is one of the most powerful strategies to turn your life around. Positive affirmations can help develop a powerful and positive attitude to life, which are essential elements in living a successful and healthy life.

Positive affirmations are essentially positive thoughts or statements about some outcome that you wish to see manifest in your life. The correct use of positive affirmations can help you to create a life that you desire. The daily repetition of these affirmations have the power to impress the subconscious mind and trigger it into positive action, thereby transforming your habits, behaviour, mental attitudes and reactions.

The very first thing you need to look at before creating your own personalised affirmations is to visualise your goal. Be specific and be sure to put in all the details – the outcome, the behaviours, attitudes and traits you would like to see yourself develop in order to get there. Visualisation is key – if you want a new car, put a picture of the car you want in a place you’ll see frequently during the day.

Make sure to only use positive words and phrases when creating your personal affirmations , for example if trying to lose weight, don’t use the phrases “I need to lose weight” or “I look fat”; instead say “I am slim”. Also, use the present tense because by doing so, you say things as if they are already true, and not as if you would like them to be true.

The sceptic in you could ask: can affirmations really make a difference in my life? Listen to what your inner voice is telling yourself day after day. Is it the voice of Mr. Negative or Mr. Positive? Few people are as optimistic or positive as they should be. If Mr. Negative is more dominant than Mr. Positive, positive affirmations could be the way to re-program your thinking and vanquish the negative patterns that have been holding you back from the success you hope to achieve.
Below are five simple ways to help you create your very own positive affirmations, to create the life you desire:

1.Visualise your intentions:
List down all that you are trying to create in your life – the outcome, the behaviours, attitudes, and traits you would like to see yourself develop to get there.
2. Create your statements:
Once you can visualise what you are aiming for, try to put that idea into simple statements that reflect the reality that you want to create. Use the present tense to create statements such that they seem already true, and not as if you would like them to be true.
3. Always use the positive:
When creating positive affirmations, make sure that they state things you would want to see and experience. Affirmations are powerful so ensure you are creating the results that you would like to see. Use positive words and phrases, for example, instead of saying “I don’t want to feel stress”, say “I’m feeling peace”. Using the negative words “don’t” or even “stress” could cause your brain to register the negative, rather than the positive intentions behind your affirmations.
Once you’ve created your own personal positive affirmations, find ways to introduce them into your daily life.
4. Repetition. Repetition. Repetition.
Set aside a special quiet time of the day to repeat your affirmations to yourself. Do this with clear intent, faith, and belief.
5. Write them down.
A good way to remind you of your personal affirmations is to write them on post-its that you place around the house in places where you’re likely to see them (fridge, bathroom mirror, etc.) Surround yourself with your affirmations and repeat them daily.

There you have it five simple steps to help you start creating positive affirmations for the life you desire. Happy manifesting!

Holistic Mind

3 Steps To Help Banish Anxiety

What most people do not know is that there are several techniques of self-help for anxiety. What is anxiety actually? In very simple terms, anxiety is excessive worry. Worry is a universal human trait; it is present in everyone. However, in people who are overly anxious, the worry can go to great lengths. In extreme situations, it can cause social anxiety disorder, which can manifest itself in various physical ways. At such times, methods such as hypnosis and cognitive behavioural therapy need to be used for the treatment. However, in most cases, methods of self-help for anxiety can be used and the problem can be snuffed out before it assumes monstrous proportions.

1. Stop Building Extreme Case Scenarios

Most people who worry out of proportion to what the situation warrants actually worry about extreme case situations. They may take a small thing and blow it out of proportion. If they see a single mosquito, they will think that they will suffer from malaria. This is just an example of how their thinking works.

You must stop worrying on these counts. Remember that it is only the rarest of situations in which things go to the extreme limit. You have to rationalise things. You have to understand that there are various ways in which a particular thing can happen and most solutions are always convenient. If you are basing your worry on what you have seen in movies and read in books, you are only inviting depression and panic attacks to be your long-term companions.

2. Don’t be Judgemental about Yourself

A lot of people build impressions about themselves – often negative – and then live their whole lives within it. They build notions such as, “Oh, I can’t do it; I can’t make anyone happy” or “I am too old, I can’t afford it”. This causes a lot of worry when particular situations arise. The effect of projecting one impression onto others makes the situation worse. If a person thinks he or she is a bad conversationalist, for example, they may unconsciously prevent themselves from attending parties.

You need to control anxious thoughts, especially those that relate to your ‘perceived’ weaknesses. What you term as weaknesses are probably present in a lot of people out there.

3. Personalisation and Generalisation

Two things that compound worry are personalisation and generalisation. Personalisation is the habit of directing the causes of every problem toward oneself. For example, if a thing does not pan out the way it should, these people would think, “I am surely responsible in some way!” Generalisation is the habit of applying the result of one incident on all other similar ones. “I scored badly in this exam. I can never do any exam right.” The problem with personalisation and generalisation is that it makes the person constantly blame the self.

One of the solutions for coping with worry is to remove self from the picture and then evaluate things. This can surely be done through self-help, but if the situation is too drastic, therapies such as hypnosis can help put a right perspective on things. Self-help for anxiety works if used in the right measure and the right time. Since self-help for anxiety comes from within, it is one of the most effective measures for curbing the problem.

 

Next time you feel yourself worrying or developing anxiety over a situation, try practising these three tips. Let me know how you get on I would love to hear your story.